the divorce. still, after more than a year and a half, it is still not final. the issues with the stbx are, sadly money. I left with not much more than the clothes on my back. I asked for joint custody, allowoing our kids to see each of us equal amounts of time. My seventeen year old moved out of her home because he could not stand living with her deceit (she has a boderline personality), but still I continued to pay her chiold support as if he lived there. in mediation, we agreed to a number of things early in June and I thought all had been resolved. she has changed things twice under the advice of her lawyer (the second round of changes have yet to meake it to my doorstep), but in an letter she told me that her expenses with the "kids" (including my 22 year old) are nearly 3,000 dollars a month, and the amount that the courts initially granted her fall too short of meeting those expenses. again, it is about money. my finances are not in the best condition, either; however, I thought the concern was to be the kids, not the cash. she makes me feel angry, and I do not like that feeling. she tells my daughters that I do not support them, and tells me that I have make their lives a living nightmare. she has said the most vile and loathsome things to me over the course of twenty five years, all because she "knew I could be better than I was". I am better not being in that relationship, and I know that the Lord was not in it. His plan for marriage does not entail emotional or physical abuse. I wish the end were in sight, but I am getting more and more discouraged.
