My divorce is finally final, after nearly two years of legal wrangling. I feel like a burden has been lifted from my shoulders, and I can also finally officially ask my true love to be my wife. Odd how this whole thing transpired, because I was certainly not looking for true love to come my way, yet God sent her to me. The effects of being with someone who was abusive emotionally ans spiritually will be with me for a long time, this I know; but I am also just as certain that in time the memories will fade, replaced by new ones that are full of love and compassion.
I am going through the same thing you have been through. I decided to divorce my husband, then took him back, then after about three weeks, decided again to divorce him. I haven't started any paperwork yet. He has been emotionally/spiritually abusive also. I've just been confused about divorcing him or not because marriage is supposed to be a covenant. But a couple of people told me that if he is abusive, he's broken that covenant. May I ask how you felt when you made the decision and were going through the divorce process? Did you feel like the love you had for her wasn't there like it used to be or that your trust had been betrayed because of how she treated you? You don't have to answer if it's too personal. We have a son together, so that has been the hardest thing about my situation. I know one thing, when he's not around, I feel in control. When he is around, I feel stress and chaos. Anyway, I hope everything works out for you. It sounds like it already has:)
