Well you do not come to my church. AT my local assemly for a couple to be married they must have courted for at least a year. BUt there is nothing wrong with dating and getting to know the other person completely, we are learn a bit each day. And not that dating is not biblical, there are permissible things that can not be biblical but are beneficial and they help us in our daily walk.

Question for you? How do you hope to know that this is the right guy if you never got to know them well?

I once 'deceived' myself that my first boyfriend will be the one i will end up married to and i thought like you that there was no need for dating. Alas, he is married to someone else now and even when i knew that he was 'dating' some other girl/s, i was convinced that God will still make him come back. And once he broke up with some girl and i was eager to take him back and almost did except that God spoke through my local pastor up till now my pastor has no idea that what he said that day when he pointed at me and gave my situation was exactly as it was. I was shocked, my best friend i sat next to asked me if pastor had met the guy or i had told him anything. But i had not. It took me a long time to get over him but I have.

And another thing, dating does not mean that you have to frock, touch or anything like that. I know it may be hard to keep one's hands to oneself as we want to be romatic and all, but it can be programmed that you meet in open places and go with someone if you have to. Do group dating and have fun. Hang out with others. Trust is earned and maybe speaking to the other lady who has been married twice, i may not agree with her entirely that pipo will judge you when they know you have dated before. How we treat people speaks volumes of who we are and make it your duty not to make them think otherwise. God being our helper.

Well, Bec, I completely agree with you. and just remember, no matter what ANYONE on here or anywhere else says, YOU are doing the right thing, because it is what God told you to do. Dont let all this criticism get you down. God will deal with them, and what God wants for you is not always what He tells them. Just stay strong in this, and it will be hard, but your future husband is worth the wait. and regarding how you will know "he" is the one without "testing him out" like everyone is saying, if you are meant to be with him, God will tell you (and him) without you having to "get the asprin out of the cabnet" because God doesnt need any "help", He's completely capable on His own, and you are trusting completely in Him, not your own judgement. Stay strong, and dont ever think ur alone in this!!! i'll back you up.
luv ya!
Sissy :)

im sorry but i do not agree on this 1 and u r completely right if God wants u to get married u will to tht perfect guy......BUT
not dating is like not working for something or if u have a spliting migrain what r u going to do your going to move your but and go get either some asprin or your going to see a docter
not dating is like saying if god wants me to be heald from this migrain he will heal me yes that is true but he has already givin u the way to get healed the asprin is in the cabnit
or the guy is out there u need to go find him and yes god will still bring him to u but u might as well help God and get out there ok that wasn;t a good enough reason if u r of the coast of florida 400 miles on a fishing trip and u forgot to refill the tank w/ gas befor u left and u run out of gas u will say well God will take care of me ill just w8 for him to find a way t get me back to shore well lets say a bout comes bye and stops to see if u ned help and u say No my God will provide a way for me to get back what kind of answer is that he just sent a way to get u back. k i guess that s it for now u have some amzing faith and some different ideas of how god works ttyl for now